Lacan on Love

Quintessentially fascinating, love intrigues and perplexes us, and drives much of what we do in life. As wary as we may be of its illusions and disappointments, many of us fall blindly into its traps and become ensnared time and again. Deliriously mad excitement turns to disenchantment, if not deadening repetition, and we wonder how we shall ever break out of this vicious cycle.Can psychoanalysis with ample assistance from philosophers, poets, novelists, and songwriters give us a new perspective on the wellsprings and course of love? Can it help us fathom how and why we are often looking for love in all the wrong places, and are fundamentally confused about what love really is ?In this lively and wide-ranging exploration of love throughout the ages, Fink argues that it can. Taking within his compass a vast array of traditions from Antiquity to the courtly love poets, Christian love, and Romanticism and providing an in-depth examination of Freud and Lacan on love and libido, Fink unpacks Lacan s paradoxical claim that love is giving what you don t have. He shows how the emptiness or lack we feel within ourselves gets covered over or entwined in love, and how it is possible and indeed vital to give something to another that we feel we ourselves don t have.This first-ever commentary on Lacan s Seminar VIII, Transference, provides readers with a clear and systematic introduction to Lacan s views on love. It will be of great value to students and scholars of psychology and of the humanities generally, and to analysts of all persuasions.

Quintessentially fascinating, love intrigues and perplexes us, and drives much of what we do in life. As wary as we may be of its illusions and disappointments, many of us fall blindly into its traps and become ensnared time and again. Deliriously mad excitement turns to disenchantment, if not deadening repetition, and we wonder how we shall ever break out of this vicious cycle.Can psychoanalysis - with ample assistance from philosophers, poets, novelists, and songwriters - give us a new perspective on the wellsprings and course of love? Can it help us fathom how and why we are often looking for love in all the wrong places, and are fundamentally confused about "what love really is"?In this lively and wide-ranging exploration of love throughout the ages, Fink argues that it can. Taking within his compass a vast array of traditions - from Antiquity to the courtly love poets, Christian love, and Romanticism - and providing an in-depth examination of Freud and Lacan on love and libido, Fink unpacks Lacan's paradoxical claim that "love is giving what you don't have." He shows how the emptiness or lack we feel within ourselves gets covered over or entwined in love, and how it is possible and indeed vital to give something to another that we feel we ourselves don't have.This first-ever commentary on Lacan's Seminar VIII, Transference, provides readers with a clear and systematic introduction to Lacan's views on love. It will be of great value to students and scholars of psychology and of the humanities generally, and to analysts of all persuasions.

Preface viiIntroduction 1The SymbolicI. Freudian Preludes: Love Triangles 9Obsessives in Love * Hysterics in LoveII. Freudian Conundrums: Love Is Incompatible with Desire 16"Where They Love They Do Not Desire" * "Where They Desire They Do Not Love" * On Women, Love, and Desire * Too Little * Too MuchIII. Lacan's Reading of Plato's Symposium 33Love Is Giving What You Don't Have * Not Having and Not Knowing * Love as a Metaphor: The Signification of Love * The Miracle of Love * Love in the Analytic ContextThe ImaginaryIV. Freudian Preludes: Narcissism 55Narcissism and Love * Love for the Ego-IdealV. Lacan's Imaginary Register 62Animals in the Imaginary * Animals in Love * The Formative Role of Images in Human Beings * The Mirror Stage * The Image We Love More Than Ourselves: The Ideal Ego * The Myth of Narcissus * Sibling Rivalry * Lacan's "Beloved": Crimes of Passion * "Family Complexes" * Transitivism * The Intrusion (or Fraternal) Complex and the "Solipsistic Ego" * Love and Psychosis * The Dangers of Imaginary-Based Love * Imaginary Passion in the Analytic SettingThe RealVI. Love and the Real 93Repetition Compulsion * The Unsymbolizable * Love at First Sight * The Other Jouissance * Love Is Real? * Love and the Drives * Love as a LinkGeneral Considerations on LoveVII. Languages and Cultures of Love 107Dependency (or so-called Natural Love) * Attachment * Friendship * Agape (or Christian Love) * Hatred * Attraction * Fixation on the Human Form (Beauty) * Physical Love, Sexual Desire, Lust, Concupiscence, Sex Drive * Fin'Amor (Courtly Love) * Romantic Love * Falling in Love (à la Stendhal) * Other Languages and Cultures of LoveVIII. Reading Plato with Lacan: Further Commentary on Plato's Symposium 163The Relationship between Form and Content in the Symposium * Homosexual Love as a Simplified Model * Phaedrus: Love and Theology * Pausanias: The Psychology of the Rich * Eryximachus: Love as Harmony * Agathon's Speech * Socrates' Speech and the In-Between (Metaxú) * Love Triangles Revisited * The Six Stages of Socrates' Speech * After Socrates' Speech * The "Mystery" of the Relationship between Socrates and Alcibiades * Socrates' "Interpretation" * Socrates' "Mistake" * Parting ShotIX. Some Possible Conclusions about Love 200Unanswered Questions * Love and PsychoanalysisNotes 207References 236Index 246