Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist

Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, LMFT, has a private psychotherapy practice in Ft. Collins, CO, specializing in work with clients who are in relationship to someone who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, and she facilitates groups on Caretaker recovery. She has previously been an Adjunct Faculty member at Regis University in Colorado Springs and at California State University in Sacramento.

People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators; Caretakers fall for them every time. This book helps Caretakers break the cycle and puts them on a new path of personal freedom, discovery, and self-awareness, through the use of real stories and practical suggestions from a seasoned therapist.

PART I: UNDERSTANDING THE CARETAKER ROLEINTRODUCTION: HOW CAN I TELL IF I'M A CARETAKER?1: IS MY PARTNER REALLY A BORDERLINE OR NARCISSIST?2: WHY THE BORDERLINE/NARCISSIST NEEDS A CARETAKER3: LEARNING TO BE A CARETAKER4: CARETAKING INVOLVEMENT LEVELS5: EMOTIONAL DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS6: THOUGHT DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS7: BEHAVIORAL DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS8: DISTORTIONS IN THE SENSE OF SELF9: RELATIONSHIP DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERSPART II: LETTING GO OF CARETAKINGINTRODUCTION: HOW DO I MAKE CHANGES?10: STAGES OF HEALING11: CHALLENGING THE BP/NP FAMILY RULES12: BEGINNING TO HEAL: EMBRACING NEW BELIEFS AND BEHAVIORS13: INCREASING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE14: NURTURING AND CARING FOR YOURSELF15: ANXIETY REDUCING SKILLS WITH THE BP/NP16: CHANGE CREATING SKILLS WITH THE BP/NP17: LEAVING OR STAYINGPART III - REBUILDINGINTRODUCTION: HOW DOES IT LOOK TO NOT BE A CARETAKER?18: MOVING FORWARD IN A HEALTHY WAY19: REACHING OUT TO OTHERS20: THE NEW YOUAPPENDIX I: CARETAKER TESTBIBLIOGRAPHY