ENDING THE CYCLE OF FATHER WOUNDS

Wounds happen in all kinds of relationships, but perhaps none are more potentially damaging that those caused by "friendly fire" from those closest to us.  And by no means are all relational wounds intentional.  Many times they are the result of lack of emotional engagement, harsh--or absent--words, lack of expressed love and pride, or criticism.  When they come from a father, step-dad, or major father-figure they leave a lot of collateral damage.

Sadly, much of that damage, can be passed on to succesive generations and families if they are not addressed, cared for and healed. As I have spoked to several hundred thousand people in the last decade I have found that many admit to carry Father Wounds.  Among men, I have found the percentage to be as high as 70-75% in an average audience, whether the audience has numbered 100 or 10,000.  And men ofter try to avoid the admisson of, let alone the confronting of, Father Wounds.  From early in life they are challenged to "Get tough," "Suck it up," and reminded that "Big Boys don't cry!"  

But why do Father Wounds occur and how does someone effectively address them?  What developments in our culture's history have contributed to the emergence of Father Wounds?  How did so many men who become fathers, step-dads and grandfathers get wounded themselves?  In Fathering, what is a child needs most from their dad or step-dad?  How do you know if Father Wounds have affected your own life?

In ENDING THE CYCYLE OF FATHER WOUNDS you will find a helpful overview of how many families have arrived at a point where Father Wounds are an issue.  You'll find a self-administered Father Wounds Assesment Tool which you can use to help determine if Father Wounds play a role in your history, so that you may take helpful steps to assure they don't negatively impact your future.

Additionally, you'l  find helpful steps one can take to begin to heal the "infections of Father Wounds."  Addressed will be questions such as...

How does one effectively deal with with forgiving Father Wounds?

How do you practice Scripture's command to "Honor your father..." if there have been Father Wounds?

How do you restore ruptured relationships?

How do you prevent causing Father Wounds, if you experienced them yourself?

How do you establish boundaries in toxic relationships and address the challenges?

How do you make wise choices about the future and future relationships?

This book can be a helpful resource to every family, and espeically every dad, step-dad and grandfather!

Chapter 1     FATHER'S ROCK

Chapter 2     WOUNDED WARRIORS

Chapter 3     TAKING A PERSONAL EXAMINATION

Chapter 4      WHY SO MANY WOUNDED...WHY SO MANY WOUNDS?

Chapter 5     FATHERS IN SEARCH OF SOLIDITY AND SIGNIFICANCE

Chapter 6     WHAT EVERY CHILD NEED IN A DAD

Chapter 7     A WORD FROM THE FRONT PEW

Chapter 8     EVERY RUPTURE NEEDS TO BE RESTORED

Chpater 9     THE MIRACLE OF FORGIVENESS

Chapter 10    GOD STATES HIS EXPECTATION

Chapter 11     "WHAT DO YOU MEAN HONOR YOUR FATHER...?!  HE DOESN'T DESERVE IT!"

Chapter 12     CHOOSING TO RECOVER--THE PATHWAY TO POWER

Chapter 13     CHOOSING TO RECOVER--THE PATHWAY TO PEACE

Chapter 14      THE CHOICE IS YOURS!

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