Understanding the Borderline Mother

Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.

The first love in our lives is our mother. Recognizing her face, her voice, the meaning of her moods, and her facial expressions is crucial to survival. Dr. Christine Ann Lawson vividly describes how mothers who suffer from borderline personality disorder produce children who may flounder in life even as adults, futilely struggling to reach the safety of a parental harbor, unable to recognize that their borderline parent lacks a pier, or even a discernible shore. Four character profiles describe different symptom clusters that include the waif mother, the hermit mother, the queen mother, and the witch. Children of borderlines are at risk for developing this complex and devastating personality disorder themselves. Dr. Lawson's recommendations for prevention include empathic understanding of the borderline mother and early intervention with her children to ground them in reality and counteract the often dangerous effects of living with a 'make-believe' mother. Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim. A Jason Aronson Book

Chapter 1 Make-Believe Mothers
Chapter 2 The Darkness Within
Chapter 3 The Waif Mother
Chapter 4 The Hermit Mother
Chapter 5 The Queen Mother
Chapter 6 The Witch Mother
Chapter 7 Make-Believe Children
Chapter 8 Fairy-Tale Fathers
Chapter 9 Loving the Waif Without Rescuing Her
Chapter 10 Loving the Hermit Without Feeding Her Fear
Chapter 11 Loving the Queen Without Becoming Her Subject
Chapter 12 Living with the Witch Without Becoming Her Victim
Chapter 13 Living Backwards