The Long Way Home

M. GARY NEUMAN is a practicing licensed counselor, a rabbi, and a "New York Times" bestselling author. He has appeared more than twenty times on" Today" and multiple times on "The View, Dateline, "and NPR. A frequent "Oprah "guest, Gary also appeared on Oprah's Most Memorable Guests show, and she has referred to him as "one of the best psychotherapists in the world." Gary and his work have been written about in numerous magazines including "People, Time, Parents, Cosmopolitan, " and "Redbook, " as well as many major newspapers. He lives in Miami Beach with his wife and five children. To find out more, visit NeumanMethod.com.

How adults can heal the pain caused by their parents' divorce-from New York Times bestselling author Gary NeumanMillions of adults were children of divorce-and while a few have found closure and healing, many continue to struggle with the trauma of their parents' divorce, commonly even 20, 30, or 40 years after it happened. If you are experiencing some of the common reactions to divorce, including issues of trust, ongoing sadness, and the feeling that you can't shake your past, then you are likely still suffering from the pain of your parents' divorce. This book is designed to help you rebuild your past, regardless of how long you have felt unable to do so. Licensed family counselor Gary Neuman has worked successfully with many adult survivors of parental divorce. In this book, he presents a new, proven program to help you see and understand your past in order to let go of the pain of your parents' divorce and transform both your present and your future.Presents a proven, 4-step process that will help you re-experience your past and understand it in a new, more objective wayGuides you through major issues that can affect adult survivors of divorce, such as finding peace with your parents and getting comfortable with loveWritten by the New York Times bestselling author of The Truth About Cheating and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way

A Note to Readers ix Acknowledgments xi What Readers Are Saying xiii Preface xvii Introduction: Sandcastles for Adults 1 Part 1 Adults Who Were Children of Divorce 1 You Are Normal 11 2 You Can Re-Right Your Past 19 Part 2 The Re-Right Your Past Program 3 Avoid Obstacles 29 4 Find Your Truth 55 5 Reflect Clearly on the Past 97 6 Create Change in Your Life 133 7 Going Forward: Maintaining the Healing 167 Part 3 Resolving Major Issues 8 Finding Peace with Your Parents Today 175 9 Getting Comfortable with Love 191 10 Embrace Trust and Honesty 203 11 Infidelity: Reconciling the Ultimate Betrayal 209 12 The Insecure Parent 215 13 Money Issues: A Common Bond 223 14 Your Best Self-Help Tools 229 Epilogue 237 Index 241